Can You Roll Solo Dolo?

Odd question, but it really says a lot about yourself. So here's the background, recently there was an event happening in Toronto that I really wanted to attend but I couldn't find anyone to accompany me to this event. So I passed and thought to myself oh well maybe next time....while I was talking to a friend on msn she had told me about the event, how she went and how amazing it was. Feeling slightly betrayed I had replied "oh iight I  see how you roll, couldn't invite me or anything..(followed by one of those crying faces)" Anyway, my friend replied...

"I went by myself, I roll solo dolo everywhere"

Oh, well that's cool. Now I thought to myself I could never do that, just go by myself. I always need a companion on my outings but than I thought to myself how many events and experiences have I missed out on because I didn't want to go by myself...

So tell me, can you roll solo dolo?

Are you able to say "you know what f*ck you I'm going!" cause I can't... like what if you f*ck up in a crowd of people..and you have no one to go back to...yeah maybe you friends would make fun of you but hell they are their...or you see someone else f*ck up in that same crowd and you ain't got no one to laugh with...maybe I'm overreacting I want to know what you think...

A person that can just get up and go regardless if anybody wants to go with them or not...that's a lot of confidence and self worth to me...can you do it? I cant...yet..

but yeah tell me, can you roll solo dolo?

Social Networking and your health - Feb 20th

I read a tweet today by a young lady @SteFloresMakeup which says...

"i cant keep up...status updates on FB, tweeting, msn, skype, bbm, model mayhem, building a blog, website...how the EFFFF do u ppl do this!!!
about 8 hours ago from web"


I will not say that I have to deal with any of this because well I'm not important enough for people to care what my status is or what iI'm thinking of...but it is something that people do... Has this replaced life and interaction...

I received an email on facebook from a friend I hadn't talked to in awhile that went along the lines of...

"friend: ...hey what happened to your facebook page. Its like you shut it down...
me: Yeah, I want to take a break from facebook for awhile...didn't you read my display pic it says that my mind is closed until further notice...
friend: aw but I haven't talked to you in so long...
me: well here's my number gimme a call, we need to catch up...
friend: ok ill call you soon"

needless to say I still haven't received that call...then it dawned on me. If I hadn't cut off my facebook page in the manner that I did...the only assurance that this person would know if I was alive would be through recent status updates or if I uploaded a new picture...and the only interaction with this friend that I haven't talked to in ages would have surely been a post on my wall that would probably have gone like...

...omg I haven't spoken 2 u in sooo long how u been?..( I would have replied...)
...good styll, yeah its been awhile how are you?...
it would go on like that for about 2 more post than one of us would just stop replying all together and we would revisit this interaction in the next 2 - 3 months...IN THE EXACT SAME FRIGGEN MANNER!

now I know some may say, well why didn't you call them? yes I could have, but the fact of the matter is YOU said you would call and I'M not going out of my way to look for you like I'm beggin for people to talk to...cause im not...just to make it clear..

I know people..actually to be truthful I've become one of those people...who could go a whole day sitting around a computer watching others lives from twitter, facebook, blogs whatever...When you look at yourself in the mirror and see what you've become, you get scared and pitiful Lol.... but no more! I refuse to be like that!... I'm not going to give up social networking completely but I definitely wont spend time looking at others lives from a screen...I've started going to the gym and reading again...and no more shows like Jersey Shore...yes I said I watch Jersey Shore stone me whydontchya!

Break the circle of no life!

Are you happy? - Feb 19th

 

When it comes down to it, you decide where your life will end up and how you want your life to end up. I was talking with a friend of mine today who was telling me a story about someone she knew. The person haS no job, no schooling, nothing going for them. 25 and living with his mother...pause...[sidenote]

no disrespect to anyone out there living at home...Sometime I feel I'll never leave home, my mom babied me A LOT and that has definitely taken its toll on my aspirations to "leave the nest", like the food is sooooo good(Lol)  and there's a lot of love within my household...although good, its made me nervous and intimidated by life and the real world. [end]

...but that wasn't the real problem, the problem was in his excuse.." I never had my father around, and no one really supported me" what?! I never had my father either and with every decision I make in life 90% of the time people are telling me why its the biggest mistake ever and giving me the cons and not a single pro.

Don't let something as trivial as that stand in your path to happiness and success...

don't get me wrong I am feeling for anyone that has had to go through the struggle of not having a parent...I went threw it and believe me there were too many point's in my life where I could have really used my fathers love, guidance, support but he was doing things that made life hard for me and my mother.

But I WILL NOT use something like that as an excuse for not being happy and successful...

half the black population don't got no daddy...it's no longer a shock or surprise when a black youth say's "oh its just me and my mom" , "I ain't got no daddy" or even "its just me and my father" somewhere close by 3 other kids are saying "me too! I know how you feel!"...

In the end you rise either way and you take this and you become better...so that when you become a success and people realize that you did it without the strength and guidance of a father figure, they admire you even more and respect your success even more...

basically what I'm saying is don't blame your  unhappiness and lack of successions on others...when it comes down to it you decide where your life will end up...

ARE YOU HAPPY?
NO...
DO YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY?
YES..
THAN CHANGE SOMETHING!

“I just want to be successful”

Sorry I haven't blogged in awhile. Procrastination is something that will mess up every facet of your life...but moving on I read an interesting post from the blog
The 26th Letter dealing with success that will put stuff into perspective...

That’s the words that are pushing through my headphones right now as I write. It makes you think hard though about what is going on in the world. We are hearing all this talk about recession this, job cuts that, pay decrease, and all that jazz. Yet most times you can go to any club in Toronto, see those “ballers” who think they have it up with OSAP money buying bottles to impress the ladies only to find out that they gotta work their ass off in whatever day job they do to make that money back. Please do not believe that I hate on those guys because life is how you can live it in any way shape or form. What I am wondering to ask is from you Toronto “Are you living as successful as you want to be?” Do you have that job you always wanted? Are you driving that car that you needed to get? Are you living in that house where you wanted to do for? It’s a lot to go with those these days. Sometimes you can have one or none at all. If you have all three what advice could you give to someone who has none? It seems most to all of us are afraid of loosing what we have. If we quit the job we are at will there be another one waiting in the wings, or if we loose our job what would we do. The economy puts on sales slashing prices in half and sometimes even more so they can get us to spend, but where is this money coming from? So I want to ask you Toronto people. And people all over the world…. “Are you living as successful as you want to be?” If success has not come your way why not? What is holding you back from it all?

The floor is yours Toronto

J.Warbucks